Dear Mr. WJDHAIC,
I do have to say that it was a little unfair because I scheduled you in for a morning coffee date before work, so our time was limited. I think this was during the point where I was scheduling dates like it was my job, almost daily. It's funny because you are very sweet, but you definitely have that bad boy thing going on underneath and because my father is what we would label as a "bad boy." I had my major reservations at the beginning. The ironic thing is that we were able to laugh a lot and I actually had a really great time. All the onlookers probably thought we were good friends even though this was our first time meeting each other. I do love that; when you can walk up to someone who is a complete stranger and start in the middle of a conversation. This is one of the qualities that I find most attractive in men. Why? Because it shows wit, personality, confidence, playfulness, openness, a sense of humor and all in the first five seconds. So, I guess the title I gave you doesn't exactly fit. We do actually have that in common-- great people skills.
It's funny because you said you were a Christian, but I suppose I should have better defined what type of Christian I am, because we weren't the same. I love being at church and spending time with Jesus. It's an every day thing for me, not just on Easter and Christmas. No judgement, we simply are looking for different things. The other thing that fascinated me was when you started talking about all your clubbing experiences and the second I told you I wasn't really into clubbing, you gave this big speech about how you don't really enjoy it and are not really into it anymore, when a couple minutes earlier, you were driving the clubbing train to club city haha. That was the biggest red flag for me, that you would change to adjust what you think I would want. That bothers me the most. Our upbringings were completely different. Our life goals were completely different. We actually might have been great friends, but that's the rough thing about online dating...you can't really move backwards.
Upon leaving the coffee shop I think we agreed to hang out again, but as I was driving to work I got this stressful burden and overwhelming dread of hanging out with you again and having to pretend like I was into it. That exhausts me the most. So I broke it off over text. Immature, yes. But, that was at the beginning of my dating and I was then terrified of awkward/confrontational conversations in relation to men. You took it well, so maybe you felt the same, which is nice and which I actually prefer. And then we did the cordial thing and both wished each other the best. Polite, but I always feel that is insincere no matter how genuine it may be. Basically, we had so many differences. Best to end it as soon as you know it isn't going to work, right? Thanks for taking it nicely.
Sincerely,
Breakfast Coffee Girl
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