1. I would consider myself a very normal, attractive, motivated, successful, talented, outdoorsy, fun, playful, smart Christian girl.(To name a few adjectives)
2. I'm 24 and I've never had a real boyfriend (This is where you gasp.)
*You have to remember that I grew up in the Christian community, which encourages purposeful dating (aka, someone you would actually end up with for real) and I was very school/ goal oriented for a while, which put boys in the background, at least on the romantic level. I had plenty of guy friends growing up.
*And let's be honest, EVERYONE knows that girls mature faster than boys and our brains aren't even fully developed until we are 25. Besides until middle school, boys had cuties.
* I was very shy and introverted until my junior year of high school, high school boys are a joke. I wasn't remotely interested in dating at that time.
*I was so excited to go out of state to a university to meet a mysterious perfect man, because every high school girl knows that college is where the "real" men are. So, you can imagine my great disappointment when I learned the truth. I'm not hating on guys. I LOVE guys. I get it. You're in school with a bunch of other young men, lots of testosterone... you want to do weird things like kill squirrels and have naked shower man time and yell and walk around campus like you're so cool and show off all your brilliant expertise in this catastrophically minuscule area of your major that, honestly, no one cares about. You're finding yourself and learning. The coming of age years. And girls are probably just as bad. We probably have our annoying things. I simply had the wrong expectations. That was the problem. Oh, and maddd props to anyone who got married in college/ the summer after graduation! I don't know how you survived. You're so brave and then you conquer the most CRAAAZY transition years in your life AND build the foundation for one of the most important relationships for your life. PHEW. Talk about a day's work.
*I graduated college so ready to date for real haha. So when I discovered dating, I went on a binge dating streak with as many as six different guys some weeks.
3. My dating HISTORY up to college: This will put things in perspective. I come from a very specific demographic- Conservative/ Christian and this will put the entire blog in context. I had my first big crush in 6th grade. I couldn't talk to the boy without being nervous. I was selectively shy around him. I think we were friends though, we joked in class. His biggest selling point was that he was cute and obnoxious. High school, I noticed boys were cuter, but still so immature. I had some crushes. Nothing ever materialized. I grew up in the public school system, transfered to a private Christian school my Junior year where I blossomed and for the first time in my life, I was popular. This was incredibly exciting and shallow. I just liked having friends and never missing any hangout because everything was epic... and it was. I went to dances with boys, and hung out with them ALL THE TIME, but still no dice.
The following blogs are letters to individual men. I would put their pictures up as I have them, but I think that might be illegal? anyway, invasive and potentially mean as I am not the #1 fan of all the men I've dated.
I would also put up a picture of me so that you know I am real and mostly normal...... but then what if someone I dated found this blog? I don't use names... Would they be able to figure out who they are? What I really think about them? Too vulnerable, at least for now...I might get brave and change my mind...
Some of the men I talk about I knew in college, the rest I met mostly through online dating. Hey, no judgement!!! How am I supposed to meet good quality guys in this 21st century?!!! huh? at a bar? um, no thank you, don't want to end up with an alcoholic. At church/ work is awkward if anything goes wrong because then you have to see that person all the time and deal with the aftermath and I've never been one for drama. Life is too short for drama. Our whole social lives are virtual, so why not try meeting people that way too? Move with the times, just don't be an idiot about it!!!
Warning: I will probably offend you. This blog is not for the weak in heart. I promised myself I will be incredibly honest, but also vulnerable. Oh, and I'm a virgin. Thus, I'm not sleeping around. I'm a believer in true love and waiting until I'm married to have sex, so that will put things in perspective too. But, if you want to laugh a lot at my crazy stories and think a little, come on my journey with me!!!
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